Registered: Jul 2000
Location: Bangor, ME
Posts: 10173

my g/f doesn't want to live with me

well she is moving 2 hours away, i asked if she wants to live with me and she gave me some bullshit answer about busy she would be
then she actually came with the truth that she doesn't want to live with me, after 2 years of being with each other

this can't make me feel other then temporary

i feel like a bump in the road

she proclaims her love, but she can't take the next step, it bugs me

i feel like im used

as a stepping stone

but i love her and accept whatever she decides, i have no backbone, i accept what i can get

i take it, cause i need something

or else something wrong with happen

im not talking commitment either, its just i don't want to be without her

and she seems to be selfish, to the point where i don't care about my future, but its intertwined with hers, but she doesn't want me around?

wtf should i do?

i sit there and cry every time i really think of it

Registered: Aug 2000
Location: GA
Posts: 6969

that you can even talk about her and this situation like you just did says how much better of a person you are than she is. let her go, you deserve someone who will cherish everything about you, and actually enjoy living with you. your are far too valuable to let yourself settle for this girl. sometimes to get to something better in your life, there has to be a time of sadness and adjustment...but there is someone out there that is better for you.

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Registered: Jul 2000
Location: Minneapolis, MN
Posts: 10229

boy oh boy. you dont want my opinion on relationships. i have such a bad taste in my mouth that i probably shouldnt even comment but i will anyway.

I dont think your in love, i think you are dependant. I spent 4 years being dependant on someone thinking i was in love, but its not really love. youve just grown used to being with her. If you think you feel like shit now wait till she dumps your ass, because its obvious you 2 arent going to ride off into the sunset in bliss. You cant make compromise in love, either makes you happy or she doesnt. settling for less is just setting yourself up. anyways i dont expect you to listen to me because i wouldnt have listened to anyone when i was in your shoes, but its not going to work and its going to get ALOT WORSE!

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Registered: Jul 2000
Location: seattle-ish
Posts: 11407

fiend, you pretty much already know how I feel. And dingle/Chelle's post are right on (as far as I can see) in many ways. You are an EXTREMELY wonderful person, and if after two years she cant see you for what you are, then my advice would be to get out of it as well.
However, none of us know the whole situation. Theres always two sides. But I feel(and please dont take this badly) that if she cant "settle down" after two years then she obviously is not mature enough to handle what you want. AND, if you arent feeling fulfille din a relationship, the best thing to do is talk it out until you come to a mental meeting place or just GET out of it. I know, and have heard you say that you have no idea how you got someone like her. But after knowing what I know about you and meeting you, I cant see how SHE got someone like YOU. You are a far better person than you think yourself to be, and dont think for a second that if you leave her you wont be able to get anyone else(who might be better suited to you, and would love you the way you need).
Again, talk it out or get out... my opinion(based on the little info I have).
also, you know you have brad and I if you need someone to talk to. Call me, email me, private message me. Im here for you.
*hug*

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Registered: Aug 2000
Location: NYC
Posts: 3598

Soopafiend, it seems she has no idea how lucky she is to have someone like you. Those types of people make me want to break expensive things that aren't mine.

In other words, i think you should follow what everyone else has pretty much suggested, just leave her. She doesn't appreciate you as much as she should.

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my heart is broke, but i have some glue

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cuz you

suck!

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Registered: Aug 2000
Location: b0ulder
Posts: 5128

Hey, ASF you're young, right? I'm 22 now, but I moved in with my GF of 10 months when I was 19. We had this sweet little 1 bedroom for a year. 2 months before the lease was up I fucked her cousin who lived with us. That was not a good move. Now, I'm not with either of them. Imagine that. And I don't have to worry about bills any more, because I went back home to mommy. Humiliating experience at best. Screw living with your girl. They only drive you crazy in the end, anyway. If she's weary of something don't do it. Women have that intuition thing down, so listen to her.

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