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I agree 100%

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I'm a hopeless romantic. Can you tell?

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I think that you confuse the concept of "man" with what commonly passes as such, today. In my opinion, the problem lay not within the dwindling concept of romance itself, but somewhere in the hearts of a people who no longer recognize beauty, honor, or respect.

My advice? The next time you find yourself faced with a "man," think long and hard on what it takes to actually be one. There's infinitely more to it than a hairy back, and a set of functional gonads. When you see this place as I have come to, you understand that we're all crowded around with tiny infants walking about in the bodies of adults...I mean, the bodies grow up, but the hearts and emotions don't. They never have to. God Bless America.

And, don't make the mistake of thinking to yourself that the gift of your love will somehow turn that little boy into a man. That's the mistake that too many decent women make, in my opinion. It all ends up so sadly and tragically.

Don't spend effort wanting. Go out, LIVE until it hurts, and let the world fall into place around you. Strive not only to find love, but to be worthy of it when you do. That is the hardest and most oft overlooked part, I think. Being worthy of it. We all expect that we were born with it due. What a disservice we do to everything sacred in the making of that pompous assumption. Through that, we remake love into the hollow, graceless substitute that so many of us cling desperately to, today.


There's the end of my advice. It's all I have to give.

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redguard, I do love you. You are such a beautiful & brilliant person. I agree with your advice completely. It is time for me to truly live my life, and I'm going to. And of course, have a hell of a great time all the while.

I do believe there are real true men out there, and I do believe I'll find one someday, who will love me for me. Hopefully, I'll be worthy of that love by then. I have my entire life to wait.

Many hugs to you red.

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Chantrea my dear, you are still young! You won't have to wait your entire life for happiness, or love, it is out there, just take a look!

The only way someone CAN love is, is loving YOU, not anything else at that moment. If someone tells you different, they tell you lies!

I wish I could say I was one of those real true men, but the test seems to tell me I am only 58% a man. *sighs*



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Originally posted by redguard:


I think that you confuse the concept of "man" with what commonly passes as such, today. In my opinion, the problem lay not within the dwindling concept of romance itself, but somewhere in the hearts of a people who no longer recognize beauty, honor, or respect.

My advice? The next time you find yourself faced with a "man," think long and hard on what it takes to actually be one. There's infinitely more to it than a hairy back, and a set of functional gonads. When you see this place as I have come to, you understand that we're all crowded around with tiny infants walking about in the bodies of adults...I mean, the bodies grow up, but the hearts and emotions don't. They never have to. God Bless America.

And, don't make the mistake of thinking to yourself that the gift of your love will somehow turn that little boy into a man. That's the mistake that too many decent women make, in my opinion. It all ends up so sadly and tragically.

Don't spend effort wanting. Go out, LIVE until it hurts, and let the world fall into place around you. Strive not only to find love, but to be worthy of it when you do. That is the hardest and most oft overlooked part, I think. Being worthy of it. We all expect that we were born with it due. What a disservice we do to everything sacred in the making of that pompous assumption. Through that, we remake love into the hollow, graceless substitute that so many of us cling desperately to, today.


There's the end of my advice. It's all I have to give.

redguard@blackvault.com

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i hope i have you to respond to my rant one day

and how come the women do not give me flowers? why must i give them?

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Very well-written, Chantrea! And, yes, you're right. But, I fear, on the whole, that romance doesn't mean as much to men as it does to women. UNLESS YOU FIND THE RIGHT MAN! And you will!

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Originally posted by Caffeine:
Chantrea my dear, you are still young! You won't have to wait your entire life for happiness, or love, it is out there, just take a look!

The only way someone CAN love is, is loving YOU, not anything else at that moment. If someone tells you different, they tell you lies!

I wish I could say I was one of those real true men, but the test seems to tell me I am only 58% a man. *sighs*

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your more men than most are.
*huggles caff*



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MOST? MOST???
I'll settle for... "your more man than almost 3% of all men! Including people with opperations of course"
Yeepie!
*cuddles with chelle*

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Originally posted by Princess_Chelle:
your more men than most are.
*huggles caff*

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Great job Princess Chantrea!!
I know how you feel sweetie. Redguard, as always, made lots of great points. They are out there somewhere. I think it just takes time and patience to find them. You are worth it so yes you should hold out for true love.

I love you girl!!





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Originally posted by Caffeine:
MOST? MOST???
I'll settle for... "your more man than almost 3% of all men! Including people with opperations of course"
Yeepie!
*cuddles with chelle*

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how about, your one hot hunk of man meat.



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People say romance is dead, I say hogwash.

I was lucky enough to have a conversation about just this topic no to long ago at work. The woman we were with complained their husbands or signifigant others weren't romantic enough, and we being the men we are had to defend ourselves and say,'Hey! were romantic!'. As you can much expect, there was alot of gender defending going on, on both sides, but one thing struck me as important, it wasn't that romance was dead, I just think theres a lack of communication.

As a man, and speaking personally, there are some things that I consider romantic, like flowers, small presents just for the hell of it, a nice word here and there, movies on the couch by candlelite with your partner snuggled up under your arm, having a nice dinner and a back massage waiting for your loved one when they get home from work etc etc...but that is me. And to tell you the truth, to be romantic in a relationship I think it takes things that both people find romantic for it to be really romantic. Does that make sense?

For example, one of the ladies we were talking to said off hand that,'My husband gets me flowers all the time, but flowers are so ordinary'

...Whoh? Wait a minute! when did the rules change?

I've always believe that flowers were a nice expression of love between two people, I like giving flowers and receiving flowers, but it seems that not all people think the same way as myself. In fact its not about what I think at all, its about the fact that if "Lisa" told her husband that she thought flowers were ordinary, and in this case it was no,"it will hurt his feelings" she said...ahhh lo and behold we are back to communication.

So to try to make sense of my confused jumble above, I dont think romance is dead, I just think it takes a little bit of communication to make things work. Women out there you need to let us know what you like and dont like, you may think it would ruin the notion, but you might be suprised how some of us at least use that information. Men out there we need to listen to our signifigant others, if she dosent like one thing, try something else, be creative, and above all things, both men and women, we need to be open with each other and let each other know whats going on or it will just be a bunch of confused scramblin in the dark with unknown outcome.

Hmmm, I wonder if I make any sense or if you all think I'm on drugs. Sometimes I wonder that myself

As a side note, I got Chantrea's mother and grandmother crotchless panties, how much more romantic can that be I tell you!!!

But to be serious, I've come to know Chantrea alot better over the last year, and she deserves as much romance as she can get..

Anata wa haru ichiban no sakura no yoni utsukushii. - For she is as beautiful as springs first cherry blossom.

Viva la Romance!

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man meat? just like tack??? and the rest of them???

humph!

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Originally posted by Princess_Chelle:
how about, your one hot hunk of man meat.

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no...nothing like the rest of them, you actually have the decency to keep it in your pants.
well until i demand to see it of course.

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*AHEM* keep on the topic you flirts
no true romance is not dead, those who give flowers all the time are just going through the motions, think of stuff she enjoys. if she likes bunnies, get her some bunny earrings or the like.
romance shouldn't be once in a while sort of thing, show your support, cook her dinner, do the dishes, let her watch her shows. ya know? it may not seem entirely romantic in the sense but it really is.
don't get her gifts at special times, maybe don't pay for a gift at all, draw her a picture, leave a note saying that you love her.
go up to her and whisper that you love her in her ear at a random moment.
but as far as true romance? it is out there, some men hide it behind a gruff manner, a surly outside. you'll find it in the most random of places. and as always, women really don't go for the nice, quiet guys in my experience.
i haven't lost hope, she is out there.

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Originally posted by AlcoholSoopaFiend:
*AHEM* keep on the topic you flirts
Topic? err whoops. chelle, control yourself!get her some bunny earrings
bunny earrings fiend? BUNNY EARRINGS???

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why bunny???

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it was an example chelle
i should have put

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Love is a figment of your imagination. There is no true thing that can be defined as "love," merely a stab in the dark at what one person thinks to be love. What one sees as love, another sees as something completely different.

The best you can hope for in life is that at some completely random point in the infinite that is time, you will find someone with the same illusion of love, or something similar, to what you have. Until then, it's like pounding a square block through the circle hole.

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