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Mike and Kim, A Relationship Story «

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are mike and kim supposed to be around 8 or 9 years old?

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I never did get that cybersex thing. One of my friends some time back used to use my 'puter for it while I wasn't looking. Pissed me off when I found out (he hadn't realized that mIRC logs everything. ). I wasn't bothered so much that he was into it, that's not my business. But that he used MY FUCKING COMPUTER for it is fucking annoying. Even after I told him to stop. Oh well. I don't associate with that friend anymore, and not just for that. But that's another story.

I suppose the net's as good a place as any to meet someone, but it should eventually become a real relationship. I fail to see the excitement in text on a screen. Sorry.

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Posted by ANONYMOUS_THOUGHT:
Is Mike right, is this a relationship?

It can be real. I'm not sure of the details. It depends on if they've taken it offline at all. Phone conversations, met, or if it's strictly an online affair.

To me, once you take from the screen, it's no longer 'online.'

Can you have a real love relationship with someone you haven’t met or known in real life?

I don't think so, either. I think that you can know that you want them. Or, that you may want to try something with them. But, if there's no contact other than online massaging, there can't be much there.

That’s real, real for all of us. If your idea of a relationship is anything like Mike and Kim’s, then you haven’t lived.

Again, I agree. There is NOTHING better than feeling someone's warmth against your body. Being able to feel them, smell them, and hear them whispering in your ear. Feeling their breathe on your skin as they look into your eyes. That is something that everyone should experience everyday.

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The biggest mistake to make is to think that an online social life can replace one in real life. It can't. In chat you can never read someones body language, hear them laugh or listen to their tone of voice.

But, you can use your social life online to supplement your real life. You get to meet a wider variety of people, and in some cases, make new friends in RL

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i think that you can care about people that you meet online, even love them. but only to a certain extent. if you feel you want to move on further than "just friends", the relationship has to come offline as soon as humanly possible, otherwise it will eventually fizzle out. there is more to being in a relationship than just talking and such. the physical side is also very important.

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Hmm, an online-only relationship would never work for me. . . I can meet people that way, but it's gotta lead to real-life stuff.

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I think it's very appropriate here to question the motives of someone who would want to post this under the veil of anonymity. We're presented with a cyber drama eschewing the concept of "real" relationships on the internet. Yet our enigmatic writer is oh so concerned about what might be said to them, or that someone might be offended by their words. (I'm sure we could find equally compelling reasons, leading back to the same origin ...)

"Contradictions do not exist. Whenever you think that you are facing a contradiction, check your premises. You will find that one of them is wrong." - Ayn Rand

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The basic rudiments of cyber-relationships have actually been with us for a long, long time. Cyber-relationships are, to a large degree, very similar to "pen-pal" relationships that were relatively quite common in the past. The difference is, the "tit-for-tat", i.e. the mental exchanges happen far more contemporaneously on the internet than they did with the pen and paper.

Similar relationships have also been with us for some time vis-a-vis the telephone. In fact, with voice chat, cyber relationships are no different than long-distance phone relationships. Further, both telephone and voice-chat relationships have an additional sensory stimuli (hearing) not available through pen and paper.

The drawbacks of all three, however, are that they all afford only limited and, hence, incomplete sensory stimuli. It is very conceivable, in fact I believe inevitable, that the day will come when technology will afford complete sensory stimuli for parties engaging in a cyber relationship. That day, of course, being the day when virtual reality becomes indistinguishable from reality. Amen.

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