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Is it better to have loved and lost or to never have loved at all?

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Registered: Aug 2000
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Love and lost. Definatly.


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Registered: Jul 2000
Location: Sydney
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I guess.
I'd rather have loved and be loved.
You get to my advanced age and I've been messed around major and done some major messing around of my own.
Makes you wary...what's the mantra?
"Love like you've never been hurt, dance like you're alone, cook like I can't remember what goes here."
Or something.

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Registered: Aug 2000
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Love.
Love is finding your place in the world in the heart of another.
That solitude is void of purpose.
Loss.
When you've misplaced an item which may or may not be found again.
When you've noticed an object becuase of it's absence.

Is it better to have loved and lost?
When the experience brings hope and desire to reclaim that which is lost, yes.

When one abandons hope, all is lost.

The person will determine the good.

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Registered: Aug 2000
Location: Massachusetts
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probably loved and lost....

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Registered: Aug 2000
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Loved and lost.
Most certainly.
It's kind of sad, but better.
I think I would have gone crazier never having loved at all than having loved and lost.
I'm gonna have to face it.
I'm addicetd to love.
*sigh*
(that was bad)

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Registered: Jan 2001
Location: WDM, IA
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I dunno.

I'm between thoughts on this issue. On one hand it's better to have loved and lost because at least in this event, you've had the joy of knowing love at all. Even if for a short time, you've known a "bliss" that is unique. However, in the same token, having now seen/known/realized what is special about love - but now being without it, you're open for that much more pain and disdain.

You don't miss having a third arm because you've never had one. If you've never known love, you don't have the "emptiness" when it's not there.

I'm not sure if I believe it's better to of known love or not. The difficult part of this discussion is those that have known love, are biased. Those who haven't, are incapable of debating which is better. It's a very complex issue.

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Registered: Jul 2000
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Well put Wraith.
Personally I will have to go for the Loved and lost angle but as with what Wraith said, I am biased because I have experienced it.
It is also easy for me to go with that because I am on the up side of it, being in a most excellent relationship.
But... Having been on the downside of it also, I can say that, as painful as it is, there is hope in the fact that we do not have to be limited to one shot at love.

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Registered: Oct 2000
Location: UK
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Originally posted by absolut:
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Registered: Jul 2000
Location: Chicago
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Tack,

Being loved and lossed is all part of growing up, little guy.

Take the good from the bad.

Learn from your experiences.

Kick ass when needed.

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