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An update by tack «

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Damn you, tack....grow some balls and fuck these women blind!!!!! ARE YOU NUTS?! So help me, I am going to come beat you over the head with a 2x4 until you learn.

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tack-

great update man. I laughed throughout. I understand a lot more about you than you may suspect. I think you and I hold very similar views of ourselves. Your self image may be a bit more severe than mine, but I too used to be timid around women and I too get paranoid when I am not the center of attention. Many people are surprised when I explain to them how little self confidence I have. I often act very confident, but that is because if I don't do stuff to entertain and get positive feedback, I start to wonder if they want me around, etc.

This really isn't the case as much anymore. I learned a lot about myself in college and changed most of these self perspectives. Let me tell you this: Once you can make that leap and quit trying to be someone you think that other people like, you'll find life so much easier. I too always was afraid to be myself for fear that others wouldn't like it. But then I learned that people don't have an image of what they want. They just treat you as they see. Might as well let them see the real you. Sure, you might get rejected by some people, but that's because you don't match. Why would you want to pretend you are something else just so you can hang out with someone who you are incompatible with?

Be yourself and you will find people who like you for you. Don't decide for others that you are no good, let them tell you. As far as women go, as long as you aren't an asshole, be yourself. They will like you much more for being genuine.

I hope this doesn't sound like a lecture. I'm just trying to share some of my experiences coming from a similar place.



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Originally posted by Nutrimentia:

lots of stuff

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Originally posted by tack:
You missed my point entirely.

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Originally posted by Dead_Inside:
Then you didnt explain your point very well or you didnt understand his.

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Originally posted by tack:
Or he didnt understand mine.

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Originally posted by Dead_Inside:
OK, Ill give you that. I just saw some observations in Nut's post about self esteem that seemed relevant to your post.

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if this particular girl was fat, and she would be like "ok tack i dont want to go out with you" you could tell her that she was fat. some fat girls find that offensive.

only if she is fat, though. otherwise it just sounds weird.



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