i have so much love for so many of you.
i am very open with my feelings and if i care about you, then you most likely have heard me say it in one way or another.

its the way i am, the way i have always been, and allot of the time, i even try and pretend i dont have feelngs for some of my friends who love to irritate me, but i pretty much love the stuffins out of them too.

Do you find that your affections for people develop quickly?
slowly?
do you tell them ?
keep it to yourself?


im very curious how everyone else deals with this.
i feel as though ill burst on a regular basis with love and like and affection for my friends and family.
is this normal?

does anyone else feel that they have fallen in love with the world ?
not necesarily in a romantic way, but do you feel overwhelmed by warm fuzzies?

am i the only one?
....

yes, i know im crazy.
i take meds for it and everything

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I love you Chelle!

As far as your question goes, it depends on the people in question, and the extent of my feelings. I am glad you love everyone, it's definatly a good thing. I wish there were more people like you in the world.

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my affections for people grow rather slowly. i always start off with giving a person a chance but i'm always on the skeptical side. i don't really consider many to be my friend. i have a close knit group of friends, (about 5 people) and i'm just fine with that. and every single one of them, i call my best friend. i burst with love for them and they know it. i'm probably the oddball of the oddball group since i'm the mushiest and let them know that i truly love them (yes, i may be an asshole but there's a completely different side to me that those who i love get to see).

however, most people don't get to see that side of me and it's basically their loss. i mean, i'm cordial and all but the way i act around them isn't quite as good as with those i love. now, in terms of romantic relationships: you should ask those who've seen me. i'll say one thing but everyone else will say that it's sickly sweet or something. i just think i'm normal, though.

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I really don't know.

I don't feel overwhelming affection for, well... anyone. I have a group of friends that I enjoy spending time with, and for the most part I trust and respect them, but I can't really say much in terms of affection.

Maybe I'm just a cold-hearted bastard. That could be it.

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oops, this should have been a new thread...

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Do you find that your affections for people develop quickly?
slowly?
depends, usualy slowly though

do you tell them ?
keep it to yourself?

depends if I feel if they want to hear it, usually not.


im very curious how everyone else deals with this.
i feel as though ill burst on a regular basis with love and like and affection for my friends and family.
is this normal?
I'm sure it is normal


does anyone else feel that they have fallen in love with the world ?
not necesarily in a romantic way, but do you feel overwhelmed by warm fuzzies?

you my dear are a romantic!

am i the only one?
....

I doubt it, but that is a rare attitude to have
keep it up.

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I can't say I've felt an overwhelming affection for anyone. I am not an affectionate person, so most people don't stick around me long enough for me to really "attach" to. I don't open up to people quickly, and I think that drives a lot of people away. I don't do this intentionally...it's just how I am. I guess I'm the polar opposite of Chelle. I don't like touching people or being touched. I do give hugs, but they're mostly for people I haven't seen in a long time or won't see again for a while.

I don't really develop affection for people, because I don't make friends easily, and it's just not part of my personality.

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Personally, I don't care a great deal about a lot of people I know. These people are entertaining, and make me happy while I'm with them, but once I'm gone, it's generally an out of sight, out of mind situation. Occasionally I try to do things to thank them for being around... like making little gifts, etc. but in all honesty, most of them aren't "real friends". They're very fairweathered, and I don't feel comfortable telling most of them big secrets. Ah well, this is life.

My "real" friends, however, whom are few and far between, I would bend over backwards for. With these people, I feel as though I can share anything with them, and ask them for their advice, or their support if necessary. Sometimes the love I feel for these friends, and for my family make me fountain... I can be such an emotional fruitbasket. It's like when I talked to my best friend on the phone the other day: I was SO glad to hear from her and get told her trials and tribulations. These people are my life force. Without them I would crumble, I'm sure.

The way I think I see it, is that there are times it will suddenly hit me... what these people have done... how much they know about me... how they can see me when I'm down, and bring me up, or see me when I'm up and smile. These are the people I love and trust, and occasionally I even tell them so.

I don't think it's abnormal, unless you can't focus on daily activities because you're too busy sharing the love ! It is nice you feel this way about so many people Chelle. You're a lucky lady!

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Well, I know you all love me...and really isnt that all that matters? Me?




I was joking

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With me, if I consider you a friend I’m very very very protective and loyal. I don’t make friends right off the bat and have different degrees of them to be sure, but Ill take up for any one of them pretty fiercely. Which Im sure some of you may have seen .

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all of my close friends here know who they are.

edit: the answer to your questio Chelle is yes I think.

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I rarely, if ever, open up to friends. Unless Im either married to them or in a mutually exclusive relationship with them, I see no need to open up fully to anyone. Most things are on a need-to-know basis. Occasionally one of them may catch me in a "mood", and Ill let a little information slip. It's rarely complete, though.

I also dont immediately attach myself to people. Almost everyone will be considered an aquaintance to me until theyve known me for a veryveryveryveryvery long time, and have proven themself "worthy"(in a sense). It sounds a bit pretentious. Okay, a lot pretentious. But If Im not attached to them, then Im just not attached to them. It's usually very easy for me to let people go. I simply forget them.

My friend Jess has known me for 14 years, and still knows very little about me. She is, however, a friend. If I NEEDED or WANTED to open up to her, I know I could. And I know I could trust her with my life(and vice versa).
My son's father has known me for 12 years, knows slightly more than Jess has;and is also considered a friend to me. Same reasons as with Jess. Hes always been there, and always will be.
With Brad, he caught me on an off year. I shared a lot more information with him than I have with most people. I do very much consider him a friend. Hes one of the few who got in quickly.

with my family, I love them with all my heart. But I dont consider any of them to really be my "friends"(with the exception of keith).
Oddly enough, I also dont automatically attach myself to family JUST BECAUSE theyre family. Im only really attached to a few people in my family. And theyre the only ones I really CONSIDER to be family. Those would be:
-my mom
-my brother
-my dad
-my aunt sarah
-my uncle butch
-my grandmother
-my cousin bobby
-my mom's new husband(only one, besides my father, that Ive liked so far. hes great )
-a few dead relatives

The rest of them, Im just not attached to; or something in their personality wont let me really CARE for them.

I have aquaintances all over the place. If I need/want someone to hang out with or go somewhere, I can/will find someone. But there are a VERY select few that I can call a real "friend". A couple have not been named here. I only used a few examples.

eh. I feel like Im babbling. so um. bye now.

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This provoked a lot of thinking...good thread, Chelle.

I suppose I have to start with my first meetings with people. There are some who I hit it off with immediately; either they are so entertaining and insane (in a good way) or something good strikes me about their characters. This only means that I am more likely to want to see them again to get to know them better. The more outgoing of these sorts help melt my shyness. I get really excited when I have common interests with people, partially because it isn't so hard to make conversation and partially because I'm intrigued by what they do. I appreciate people who I can learn from.

Getting to closer stages is more difficult. I'd say that I have a good number of common interests or feelings with everyone I hang out with. Oddly enough, I sometimes never progress in friendship with people because I'm content to admire them. There are several people like that, and I can think in particular of one at the moment. She's always been outgoing, very positive, very funny, and was one of the first people I got to know when I moved to Southern Illinois. I think she's really smart, but some people we know in common think she's dumb because she's a happy person. I defend her to these people, but I've never told her myself that I think she's intelligent. I really should do that.

The people who get in really close are always in my thoughts, and they are always part of my decision-making. I can honestly say I truly love them. They are members of my family, several long-term friends, my boyfriend. I trust them with my worst moments, as well as my best.

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i dont think many people even know who i am inside.
which is okay with me.
people would rather talk about themselves which is okay with me too.
i have a dark side, its pretty ugly.
but yeah, i guess im a romantic,
i think i love much more than i am loved, which is okay.


mostly i was curious how everyone else felt about this stuff.

now im curious how many of you think you know who i am on the inside.
or how many of my real life friends know me...

*thinks*

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Originally posted by euphorbia
With me, if I consider you a friend I’m very very very protective and loyal. I don’t make friends right off the bat and have different degrees of them to be sure, but Ill take up for any one of them pretty fiercely. Which Im sure some of you may have seen .

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I guess that's how I show my affection. I also am extremely protective of my friends, almost to a fault. I sometimes overstep my boundries and get involved where I shouldn't, but I just don't want to see them get hurt. If I even have the slightest suspicion that someone is fucking around with them, I'll make my suspicions known to both my friend and the perpetrator. You don't fuck with my friends.

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Originally posted by Rabble Rouser


don't fuck with my friends.

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youre preaching to the choir

since I have no family, friends usually sit in that position

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i love my family.
i really care about or love a select few friends. My flatmate, John, my merkin friend Margaux, my first ever girlfriend evelinde, my last girlfriend Kate.

as for you guys. well i care about you. but i am distanced from a lot of you. the philly trip will probably change this a bit. For instance my first experience of america will involve some of you. My first journy to NYC will be with euphorbia and co. hence i suspect they will subsequently forever have a place in my memories and possibly my heart as it will be a life experience for me.

there are people i have spoken to online that are currently similar to a puzzle in the way that i have interacted with them but havent really got any concept of who they really are. again this will probably change a bit after philly.

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