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My people on my mother's side - a scrapbook

Mom did a lot of work on a book binder of old photographs and memories jotted down to identify people to me, some of whom I have no memory of, and some who are fleeting images, snapshots in a very misty past that momentarily clears for me from time to time. I'll put her words down as they appear in this scrapbook I hold dear now.

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Out of this wedding you sprang. But there were other weddings before this one, and other people who made you possible. People I have known and loved, and others who are as unknown to me as these are to you, but I've heard about them all my life. Their blood and DNA and their poetry is in us. Their stories are part of our story. What I place in this little book today is just a beginning.

Love and Merry Christmas!

Mom






Barbara Beth (Mom)









At Niagra Falls



At Ma Thorn's farm on the Delaware Bend of the Red River





Wooldridge




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Memories of Wooldridge Grade School
Barbara Bailey Fryrear

November 1934. I was in Miss Boyd's first grade class. Pop was delighted that her brother taught in the business school at UT. Pop taught law. Just one month into my school career, I stood in line to recite. Finally, my turn came. Excited and urgent, I opened my mouth and wet my pants. A deluge. It poured into my socks and pooled around my shoes on the floor.

Miss Boyd said, "Barbara, you could have asked to go to the restroom."

She didn't understand how much I had wanted to recite. She took me, squishing all the way, to the teacher's lounge upstairs to look through the Thanksgiving collection of donated clothes. I remember the tall windows and the bare autumn light and the boxes stacked haphazardly around the big room. Those socks. Too big. Off-white. Silky. Lasted forever to remind me. A few of that class went all the way through the University of Texas with me. I don't know if they remembered, but I do.

Later, when Judy Leon, who lived across the street from us, wet her pants at school, Pop was comandeered to pick her up and bring her home. She grew up to become a psychiatrist, and married one. I just married. Can that incident have changed my life?

We lived on Pearl Street then, across the street from the Leon's. I remember Dr. Harry Leon, Latin professor, sitting in front of the radio with a Saturday opera score in his lap. He could tell if they left out a note. We children had to shush and tiptoe past him when we came through the Leon house. On warm Saturdays with the windows open everyone could hear the opera on Pearl Street in Austin. We were deep in the Great Depression, but we were rich.

Edwina Heinsohn was the Methodist minister's daughter. Golden girl - her glowing skin, her hair. She ate half an avocado sprinkled with salt for lunch. How elegant could one be? My mother made grated carrot sandwiches for me. Or we could get vegetable soup for a nickel and a half-pint of milk in a red carton for another nickel. Or meat loaf and veggies for a nickel.

Pop loved to comment on our phys ed teacher, Miss Disch, on playground duty when he dropped me off at school in the morning. "She's quite a dish," he'd say. I have a snapshot of her and Miss Finch standing outside Wooldridge with sun grins. Guess he took it on one of those mornings. Or maybe I did with my Kodak box camera.



And then there was Miss Pansy Ludecke, the music teacher. She played "Danse Macabre" every Halloween. And told the tale of the ugly American whose suitcase came open at the train station in Paris and spilled all those liquor bottles out. She was so ugly with that long jaw she was beautiful. Intense.

And Miss Crystal who read to us of Pollyanna and the Boy with his thumb in the dike while we did endless ovals and push-pulls with pens dipped in ink bottles. I was on the lazy-hand row with a pencil banded to the back of my hand so it wouldn't roll over.

The floors in those long, tall halls of Wooldridge smelled of pine oil. In fact, the whole school building smelled of pine oil. We walked by twos down those halls, holding hands, between classes. (Lucile Gracy and her warning to me about those hall walks are a whole nother story.)

In every room there was a tiny desk especially for Minnie Merle Clifton, a midget who was one grade ahead of us, and had moved on to grander accomodations, like the chambered nautilus. Her folks were in a Christmas display all done up in costume in Scarbrough's Department Store basement. They were midgets, too. Pop was upset that they were on display, or that they had agreed to it. He was outraged that Mr. Clifton would put himself on display in Scarbrough's basement Christmas cottage. That puzzled me then, but now I think I understand.

Pop was always the shortest in class because he was passed two years forward. Just too smart to be held back with his age group. It skewed his sense of what made a real man. First was height. He admired tall men and failed to see their flaws of character. He never attained a great height. Around 5'8", I think. He graduated top of his class in UT Law School and went on to teach men and women who achieved state and national prominence. When he died, the city attorney of Irving wrote my mother to say that lawyers all over the state owed him a debt of gratitude for his teaching. That's pretty tall.

I spent Third Grade in Longfellow Elementary in Cambridge, Massachussetts. And that's a whole nother batch of memories. When we came back, we moved to Wheeler Street, the place of my childhood that defines Austin memories, though we lived there just two years. That's where I played Adventure with Jo Christian (now Jo Babich), drawing pictures and swinging like a couple of Janes in her lavender bush. The folks bought the big old stucco house on 31st Street in 1939. Though I am still in Texas and Jo is in Pennsylvania, I talked to her just this morning about the stories we are writing now.

But for all that, I was back in Wooldridge. We were studying South America in Miss Finch's fourth grade geography class, and we put on a play for the P.T.A. I must have outgrown those collection-bag socks by then. We each portrayed a country in South America. I was British Guiana and my mother gave me the catchiest line. My verse ended with, "I think I beat the Dutch." That was a saying of the time that some few people knew and no one now remembers, except me. Patricia Gray was French Guiana, and blonde Marian Johnson was Dutch, now called Suriname. I have retained some interest in those small countries ever since. Didn't Jim Jones take his followers to South America for that awful massacre? Wasn't it Guyana? Was that me? I felt invaded. And the innocence of Kool-Aid forever tainted.





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Gray fingers thrum deep and limbic
on the flat black roof of my old home
From the wide shoulders of the eaves
drips a beaded curtain while I sit
curled up dry, reading in a corner
of the screened porch. All around me
the world's a jeweled pavillion, tall
green lace of bamboo and black
branches of oaks angling across
the sky's wet tent. Inside, the smell
of old wood, old books, old pipe tobacco
Outside, magnolias and rain.





I have very strong memories and sentiments associated with this house myself. FT









And my favorite part of it was my grandfather's study. He had the rubbing of Shakespeare's epitaph behind his desk on the wall.





And there's DeVoto's book about 1846



Austin The Hood

The Kreisle's



The Steffan's



The Merchant's



The Bellmont's



The Everett's, then the Smalley's



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Penn House on West Avenue where I took dancing lessons from Sadie Penn Harris. It bears an historical plaque. More stories in all these places.




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Like father like son, eh Oxsan? Or in some cases not.

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Barbara Beth

Confirmation portrait, age 13, St. David's Episcopal Church, Austin.



"Hey, I musta had piano lessons!"



Here's Dick Everett with Twopence, Mom with Bruce, and Pat Mackey with Siller McFierce'un.



Mom and a half-coyote pup named Mr. Potter on the back steps of Miss Edina Collins house during a break from art lessons.



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1948 after Ma Thorn's funeral.

Doris, Francis, Me, Joe and Roger






1945





1949 on honeymoon in Port Isabel, Texas





Barbara Turrentine

With Dad's grandmother, Mary Ellen Hamilton





With my sister Cathy in San Saba in 1950 in Miss Martin's backyard.



With my other sister Pam and my grandfather, Judge Bailey.



Planting irises along the drive at the house I knew as home for the first seventeen years of my life.



With my older brother Danny at that same house, 1957.



with yers truly



with Cathy in San Saba



This is inside the house in Austin on 31st. That is exactly how that house always looked on the inside. It was a wonderfully dark and bookish place with ancient furniture and ancient portraits of long dead people hanging from it's walls.



With all of my older siblings




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Winifred Thorn

Mom's mother, a poet, a woman who always fascinated and intrigued me. She's the one who taught me to play chess when I was only about six or seven. She made the "meddlin' drawer" for me in an upstairs hutch, and that's where I kept all my toys and colorin books and such.



























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My mother was born Barbara Beth Tatum, but I never knew her father. He left when she was very young and they remained estranged for the rest of their lives. There is a sadness to that which I never heard spoken of in my childhood. My grandmother, Winnie, met Judge Bailey, and he, "Weldon", was the man I always thought of as my grandfather, and he was certainly sufficient for that purpose. It wasn't until I was fully grown that I even became aware of John Wesley Tatum. But more of him later. Winnie and Weldon loved each other very much, and they always struck me as true sweethearts.

Winifred Thorn Bailey

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The Healer

Life gave me dreams, then showed me they were vain,
Life gave me joy which melted into pain,
Life gave me hopes, and turned them into fears,
Life gave me youth, and stole it back again.

Love came, and on my brow sweet roses twined
And played soft strains to soothe my weary mind,
Then laying tender fingers on my heart
Bade me forget that Life had been unkind.
















Ma Thorn's children - Francis, Marjorie, Roger, Winnie, Joe, Marie and Ryder - gather in her yard in Gordonville after her funeral. 1948.



Winnie and Aunt Fay after Francis' funeral in Kerrville. He had ordered flowers delivered to her each week while he lay dying. The last bouquet was still fresh.



Winnie & Weldon in the atrium of the First Presbyterian Church, Irving, Texas at my sister Cathy's wedding in 1972.



Delys Batsell, Weldon & Winnie.
Must have been the Centennial of the Civil War and they are celebrating victory for the South.

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it's really, really hard for me to look at this picture and think of all I put her through.

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Weldon Bailey

Joseph (later Edward) Weldon Bailey



with my brother Danny



Aunt & Weldon in San Saba





Weldon reading in San Saba



Weldon as Professor of Law















He was a sweet man and a wonderful grandfather.

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it's really, really hard for me to look at this picture and think of all I put her through.


Mothers are plentiful yet a rare breed.
I know what yer saying.
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I always knew of Winnie's mother as "Ma Thorn", and she died in 1948 long before I was born. She was born Ida Susan Bledsoe and married David Dancy "Shar" Thorn. My mother stayed with her summers on her farm in the Delaware Bend of the Red River in the depth of the Great Depression.

Ida Susan Bledsoe









Ida Bledsoe Thorn
"Ma Thorn"

Ma Thorn & Aunt picking beans. Mom says she remembers that day.



Ma Thorn & Aunt



Ma Thorn on the windmill with Mildred Trinkle watching from the window.

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I have a feed sack dress Mildred made for my fourth birthday and one each of Ma Thorn's blue-check gingham caps and aprons.






Ma Thorn's farm.





Ma Thorn's Parents



Judge Joseph Bledsoe 1827 - 1898



Florence Davis Bledsoe 1847 - 1921 (and yeah, she's related to that Davis)



Bledsoe home in Sherman. He became president of one of the banks, and she was known at one time as the richest woman in Sherman.



Florence Lavinia Davis taught school in Plano, Texas before marrying Judge Bledsoe on condition he take care of her two maiden sisters, Corinth and Myra.



Florence Davis Bledsoe "Mom Bebboo"



Judge Bledsoe, "Pop Bebboo", in rocking chair.

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Note two rockers. We had the same on Rindie Street in 1951 when we both had Cathy and Pam to rock. We had to adjust the timing of our singing to the length of the longest rocker. One of us was always off-beat, usually me.




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David Dancy Thorn
"Shar"


"Shar" was David Dancy's daughter Marie's first attempt to say "father". The pattern of names in Winnie's family persisted. When in doubt, think baby-talk.





Shar on Dolly, his favorite horse. Taken at Orlena, a village on the Thorn acres in the Delaware Bend of the Red River. More info about Orlena and Delaware Bend forthcoming.



D.D. Thorn, taken on the Red River.



Shar's Parents











Shar's Grandparents

Mary Thorn Hardwick. More about her in books about the Gold Rush.



Remaining brick wall from the Thorn home in Quartzburg, California.



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Col. Thomas Thorn, my grandfather's grandfather once owned the main building in historic Little Rock. These are notes posted there. He was contractor for bricking the state house. There will be much more about him.




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Weldon's Family

Leila Elisabeth Hockett Bailey



Osborne Laurence Bailey, Sr.



O.L. Bailey furniture store on the south side of the square in Sherman, Texas.



Weldon's maternal grandfather, E. G. Hockett.



Weldon's brother, O. L. Bailey, Jr. seated in front of his mother, with mom sitting over at the right side of the photograph.



O. L., Jr.



Aunts

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Each generation of my family seems to have had a special aunt. Ma Thorn's was Antoy, baby-talk equivalent of Aunt Corinth. My mother simply had "Aunt", Florence Birge. I suppose my special aunt was Effie Bailey, but Aunt Moy, my mother's sister Marjorie, left me her poems. If I had remained a Tatum and had known my Tatum aunts, I suspect that Aunt Tootsie might have served, although Marie cared enough to get the cousins together when we were middle-aged and all the other Tatums of her generation were gone. My own children, sadly, because both parents were onlies, have no aunts. I'm sorry about that. Aunts can give you a semi-objective, but loving, view of the family. And they're always firmly in your corner.




"Antoy"



"Aunt"



"Aunt Moy"

(she's got eyes that remind me of my friend, Shante.)



Aunt Marie Tatum



Effie





O.L., Jr. and Effie, his wife.



Corinth "Antoy" Davis

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Corinth Davis, sister of Florence Bledsoe. Never Married. Weldon fell in love with her sight unseen from her letters. A sometime governess for Ida's children. Among others, I have a letter from her about the Indian school in Oklahoma.






Indian School, Oklahoma Territory

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Florence Bledsoe

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Younger than Ma Thorn by twelve years, Aunt said, "I was conceived when my father should have had his mind on the hereafter."






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Florence Bledsoe Birge was like a second mother and best friend to Winnie. She and her husband Fred, "Aunt and Uncle Cac", lost a lot of money in the crash of 1929. For a time they had a service station near the square in Sherman. Several stories there. Aunt was lots of fun. I can still hear her exclaim, "Well, Gawd love it!" just before a hug.



Fred & Florence Birge
"Aunt & Uncle Cac"


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House on North Woods Street, Sherman, Texas. During hard times Aunt took in boarders. I spent part of my sixteenth summer in this grand old house. It was June 1944. When I heard church bells ringing in the night, Uncle Cac told me it was D-Day. Our armed forces were landing in France.






Uncle Cac and Black Orchid

This horse filled two glass fronted mahogany cases with trophy cups.



Aunt & ?

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The Tatum's

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John Wesley Tatum, my father. He sold office supplies, then joined the Merchant Marine during World War II and served in the South Pacific.






The Tatum children.



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To paraphrase Cary Grant in "Arsenic and Old Lace", "I'm the daughter of a sea cook!"






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Nancy Agnes Miles Tatum, "Grandma Tatum", was raised by members of the Fletcher family after the early death of her mother until she entered the Arkansas Female College in Little Rock. The college was owned and operated by her uncle Richard Fletcher, who was also Dean of the University of Arkansas Law School. She was graduated valedictorian of the Class of 1889. After she married, Nan taught school at Walnut Grove. She was especially fond of higher mathematics, Latin and Greek literature. After 1911, when Nan and Will divorced, she sold the farm and moved with her eight children to Little Rock. When the children were grown, she did volunteer work in homes for unwed mothers. She had deep religious convictions and took an active role in her church. Son John Wesley was named for the Anglican bishop who founded Methodism. She died May 18, 1951.






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William Milton Tatum, born December 18, 1869, attended St. John's Academy in LIttle Rock and the University of Texas at Austin. He and Nan married in Little Rock in the Second Baptist Church, then moved to Jacksonville, where Will's father practiced medicine. Will was appointed Postmaster at Totten, and Nan assisted him with the mail. They both also taught school at Walnut Grove. In Jacksonville, Will became owner-editor of a country weekly newspaper and president of the local telephone company. He was considered a progressive and scientific farmer, took an active interest in politics and ran for office of State Representative. An alcoholic, he was drunk and unable to pay the fare on a train he often rode. Ejected in a snowstorm in North Little Rock, he died of exposure twelve days after his forty-ninth birthday. He was buried at Bayou Meto Cemetery, which he had designed in 1904.




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I thought I'd top this thread to go along with all the old stuff I posted in the October snapshots.

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