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My first reaction is to be honestly impressed with your integrity (and good sense). I would agree that your refusal to have sex with her (which I applaud) probably confused her, and may have even felt like an insult.

It wasn't stupidity that kept you from sex. In the first instance, it was integrity and self-control (bravo!), and in the second case, I believe it was a keen sense of self-preservation which had identified this young woman as someone with whom it might be inadvisable to get into a deeper relationship. I'm not saying she is a bad person, but that whatever issues she was dealing with were not ones you wanted to have on your plate.

It seems to me that you take sex fairly seriously. If that is the case, being selective in choosing your partner on emotional grounds seems like wisom, not stupidity at all.

That's my take on it, anyway. Good story, sir.

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Agree with Tal, it wasn't stupid denying drunk sex. Some of that you can really learn to regret. Some of it will be used against you later in worse ways than abstinence would ever hope to achieve

On the other hand, stop thinking and start fucking. Horny girls obviously can't handle fragile boys' souls.

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.....it's better to regret something you have done than.....

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Ahh yes, the eternal question: Is bad sex better than no sex?
Personally I go for no.

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no sex or no no sex?

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Man, once I woke up with an icelandic girl, head pounding, nauseous and just barely able to get a rise. Everyday I pray God will wipe that following scene from my memory.

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Her name wasn't "Hawley" by any chance?

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It was Edda, like the book. I couldn't guarantee Hawley's real name isn't Edda though.
Hawley, if you read this and your name is Edda, sorry dude.

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I woke up next to an icelandic girl once, myself. Her name was Sylva - beautiful white-blonde hair, pale grey eyes, and a very nice body. Actually, I woke up next to her a bunch of times.

Hawley, I really, really hope your mother's name isn't Sylva.

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they sure do sleep around, don't they?

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Thank you, Tal, for the support.

I'd thank Coincidence too, but he quickly derailed the thread.

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Ahh yes, the eternal question: Is bad sex better than no sex?
Personally I go for no.

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Hmmm. You have a thread of being shy and not always having an easy time meeting/talking to people. I wonder if there's fear of rejection in there? I know I was really shy for a while, but am an extrovert as well- but the shy part always came out w/women. Recognize, though, that everyone has different perceptions of what rejection is, and it sounds like this gal read your actions as rejection of her, despite your best intentions.
As I age, I've come to see that, contrary to my previous ways of being passive with women for fear of making them feel pressured, that women and men alike do like a subtle dose of assertiveness, particularly when the sexual sparks start flying. It's that tricky balance that isn't throwing one's self at a person (not sexy) and also isn't being so shy and aloof that they think that you aren't interested in them.

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A tricky balance indeed, I find that for men and women alike a subtle dose of loads of alcohol helps the sparks ignite the fire.

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'Good sex is great, and bad sex is still pretty good.' ~ some frenchman or other.

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Unless you're getting raped of course.

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I'd thank Coincidence too, but he quickly derailed the thread.

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Fuck you Nuttball. God DID actually wipe that scene from my memory.
But now you made him reload it

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Recognize, though, that everyone has different perceptions of what rejection is, and it sounds like this gal read your actions as rejection of her, despite your best intentions.

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Indeed. Of course, in my opinion, if I can't trust the person I'm seeing, it's not worth seeing her anyway.

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Unless you're using a very liberal definition for the word trust, I suggest you buy a love doll, or develop an attraction for german shepards.

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Err... My point was that when I decide to see someone, I put my trust in her. It may lead me to be walked over, but I figure that's just a price to pay. I couldn't stand having a relationship without trust.

Mind you, I generally take my time before starting a relationship to get to know the girl anyway, so maybe I'm just doing things in the wrong order. It makes more sense to me this way, but it seems to confuse everyone else.

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Unless you're using a very liberal definition for the word trust, I suggest you buy a love doll, or develop an attraction for german shepards.

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