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The end
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I guess I got lucky. When my Mom died last year, she had already given almost all of the memorabilia to those whom she wanted to have each item, and what she had not given away she had labelled for the appropriate person. When Dad died I got his pocketwatch, his family heirloom pocket knife, a hat, and a carved plaque he had made in the 7th grade. More than I expected, really.

Like you, Lu, I dpn't understand the vultures, but every family has them.

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I have no answers either, but I've seen the stupidity that follows a loss of loved ones as well. It's not always maliciousness and greed, sometimes just plain old misguided gestures. Somehow they feel a trinket will represent the love and memories made with the departed.

It doesn't.

I'm sorry for the loss of your friends.

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They just want to pawn the mo fo yo. Naw. It's about the giving to the siblings so they can pawn the mo fo yo.
Wassup?

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Thanks for the replies. and it's me T, Simon, not Lu, but thanks for the compliment.

I think with her death, I've learned more then ever how you don't take it with you. I have heard the saying before but it never stuck until now.

Not one thing you own matters in the long run. and I'm getting the impression it just creates more for the ones left behind to fight over.

What matters most, or should, is the imprint in your life others leave in your heart and mind.

It escapes me how someone can put emotion into an object, how a tricket can mean anymore then a few cents at a yard sale or a dust collector. You are so right Imposter, it doesn't.

I'm truly amazed and bewildered. I've told them all not to involve me with that petty shit, because that's all it is.

For some reason she opened up and talked to me many times. I felt honored she told me about being at peace with her death.
She never talked to her own kids personally like that. They know she shared with me but not one of them has asked about that, they instead find the treasure they seek in possesions.

Little do they know she left me with the best; A part of her heart.
It just kills me I can't share it with them.I hope in time they come around looking.

meh.

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They just want to pawn the mo fo yo. Naw. It's about the giving to the siblings so they can pawn the mo fo yo.
Wassup?

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My Nana (mom's mom) died last December. A couple of years ago she asked me if there was anything of hers that I wanted and I said, Nana, No and I hope you're not planning on leaving us any time soon. I thought it wouldn't be fair to my mom, sisters, and cousins, and I thought if her stuff ever had to get divided up it should be done fairly after her death with everybody present. Meanwhile, my cousins spent the last couple of years greedily dividing up her stuff between them without regard to my Nana, mom, sisters, or me. On the one hand, if that's what they need, so be it. On the other hand, my sisters and I are still pissed off at them for having so little regard for my Nana and us. Sure, it's nice to have something that was hers. I, like you, T, don't understand on any level the way people get when others die. About my cousins, they've had tough lives and I don't think they allow themselves much tender human sentiment. I think they fill up the emotional void with stuff. It doesn't make their selfishness and thoughtlessness any easier to take. Ultimately, I'd rather have my Nana around to talk to and laugh with than anything she owned, bottom line.

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Sorry 'bout that, T.

I was lucky in many ways with Mom. Three times in the last two years of her life I got the privilege of spending extended periods in her company, and I learned things about her life (and my Dad's) I doubt any of my siblings will ever know. I learned the history of her family, and finally got straight the various family group surnames, and how they are related. Treasure your memories with her - she valued you greatly enough to share them with you, in preference to her own children.

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