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The Asylum from a Non-Asylum perspective

This is just something I have been kinda curious about.

And is mostly geared to the people who spend a significant amount of time on this site, but anybody can, of course, answer.

What do your spouses, significant others, colleuges, roommates, or whatever else applies think about this site and you spending your time on it?

Do they think it is a good thing, just not really their bag? Do they think you are an idiot pissing your time away? Do they have no clue what value you get from the activity of interacting on a message board? Does nobody know? When and if you are relating anecdotes from the going ons here, how do they react? Just in general, what is their perception of the whole thing?

Just curious.

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Registered: Aug 2000
Location: Cambridge
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well with chris(generic), he knows for the most part what im talking about, when i talk to him about something that happened relating with the asylum.
my other brother matt has no idea what i really get out of this. he posts at a forum once in a while, and asks me a lot what our common interest is, what brought us together, what holds us together.
being weird?
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Registered: Jul 2000
Location: Nanaimo BC, Canada
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I've tried showing it to some of my friends, but none of them ever seem to "bite" and actually register.
I bet they are lurking though. Or maybe something about us scares them off.

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Registered: Aug 2000
Location: Los Angeles, CA
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One of my friends claims he lurks. A few of my friends I won't even mention this place to.. my roommate thinks you're all weird, but he does like to watch our trivias...

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Registered: Jul 2000
Location: Ivory Tower, USA
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My SO Malka doesn't "get it." I think she sees it as a large waste of time communicating with a few hundred strangers. When I try to explain that they're not "strangers," she glosses over. I gave up trying to explain what we "do" here some time ago.

I've tried to interest a handful of friends in posting here, one of whom lurks. He's mentioned that he's intimidated by the "clubbiness" of the place and has suggested removing "post counts" as a way of removing the "clique" feeling.

Not sure how I feel about that last point though....

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Registered: Aug 2000
Location: LfuckinA
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I've had friends come by and check it out. I know of at least one lurker...hi somaties. Anyhow, they tend to think I'm an idiot for being here. They don't see what I see in this place. Sometimes, I don't either. But, they usually see the stupid topics. They think that's what we're all about. Oh well, too bad for them I guess. We do have intelligent posts here from time to time. But we're also a community and just like all communities, we have our idiots, malcontents and conspirators. But we live with it and learn to adapt, adjust, or ignore. My friends are good people, they just have differing tastes it appears. I'm a writer of sorts as you all know, so it helps me to voice my opinions to people 'round the world in this fashion. I just see this place as a great way to communicate with the whole world. How else would I have met weirdos from Kansas who are living in Virginia? Or lefties from England? Or that big time commie who lives 15 minutes from me that I've yet to meet IRL? This is a great way to get to know about the world around you. The only thing you have to distinguish is reality from the asylum. The asylum is not reality in itself. Nor is the outside world. You have to make either your reality and use it in the most productive and healthy way possible. That's all for now. Bye.

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Registered: Sep 2000
Location: Playa d'en London
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my last girlfriend was only interested in looking at porn sites or shopping online (with my money).

she'd probably think this place was 'sad' or something at first glance.

but i reckon she'd have loved this place had she given it half a chance.

doesnt matter now.......the bitch dumped me.

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Registered: Aug 2000
Location: Richmond, VA
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I've told some friends, but they never registered (this is you Christine and Sarah, just in case you're lurking)
I tried to tell my mother and she just looked at me like I was speaking swahili until I got to the part about anime sometimes being posted and now she wants me show her how to get here.
I told my brother, but he uses web tv ('nuff said)
I told my ex- but she thinks I'm a retard and anything I do is beneath her, so she probably wont be stopping by. and if she does happen by it'll only be because she wants to see what retarded things me and all my online retard buddies are chatting about.

so it's looks like it's just you guys and me. I'll bring the peanut butter if you bring the chocolate.

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Registered: Oct 2000
Location: Texas
Posts: 2593

Well Paint...I wish you'd give answers to your questions too!!

Anywhooooo.. You've all met my SO, IBeFree. He likes to come and visit now and then, but isn't quite 'hooked' as I am. Now and then, I'll be reading a post and laughing, he'll walk in and want me to read it to him.

MrSherman, my awesome son, MOST of you know. He introduced me to this place. What more needs saying? heh.

My daughter thinks I've lost my mind.

My 10yr old son, was warned to never use my P.C. unless I was around...one day of course, he just HAD TO go and find #wota on my P.C. and started talking to some of you. He said he thought ya'll were nice and he didn't understand why he couldn't 'hang out'. So, I explained it to him very gently, but sternly:

me: "That is a chat room for very sad and sick people, son. Never, ever go there again!"

son: "uh, yeah mom. Ok, no problem...could you put down that bat now??? You're scaring me."





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Registered: Jul 2000
Location: Sedona, Arizona
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Big Al doesn't mind me being here. She isn't into the computer in this sense but has no problem with me hanging out. I make less of a mess if I am confined to one particular area plus she knows where to find me.
She also is not into TV so her preference is for me to be on a quieter machine like a computer. When the TV is on, she quit often sits next to me to watch if it is a show we both like. (rare)
She also has a comfortable chair next to mine and hangs out here reading a book or watching you cosmonauts over my shoulder on occasion.
I do get up and interact with her quit a bit so it isn't like I am totally isolating her from my life (good advice if you have an SO around and wish to keep them). She is talking to me right now as a matter of fact although I haven't a clue as to what she is saying. I hope the "uh huh" I just gave her doesn't entail any work for me.


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Location: Richmond, VA
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I'm a complete retard

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I'm a complete retard

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Registered: Sep 2000
Location: atlanta
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I've told friends about it, and how many posts I have, and whatnot. Most think message boards in general are dumb, as IRC seems cooler to them.
Anyway, I told one friend about the diversity, and how cool some of the people were, and she really wants to post here. I told her I didn't know the URL, I just had it bookmarked.

Maybe one day I'll give her the URL. She seems genuinely interested. (And she is sekzy)

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Originally posted by Avondale:
Anyway, I told one friend about the diversity, and how cool some of the people were, and she really wants to post here. I told her I didn't know the URL, I just had it bookmarked.

Maybe one day I'll give her the URL. She seems genuinely interested.

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quote:

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Originally posted by urbanjunkie:

why dont you just give her the url ?

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Location: Bangor, ME
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my friends think i am strange. Well im pretty sure, considering i have invited a couple and they haven't been posting. Interesting if they didn't want to tell me they were posting, what could that mean?....

anyways, my past ex really didn't get it. when i invited paint to my house for a small get together, the only thing she could say was "you met him on the internet?"
me: "uh, yeah. whats wrong with that?"
her: "umm, what if he kills us all or something?"
me: "don't be silly" *hides knife in his pants to make sure*

and of course there was this awkwardness when we started talking, cause my ex and her friend were just looking at each other while we talked of the site and shit.
(she finally went to go get high methinks)
(hey you bastard, THATS the one im going out with *wink*)
hehe, it was pretty cool tho, he got really stoned with my friends and drank many beers
talked with my friend Hart who i have not seen post here as of yet the fucker!!!

so who knows what he thinks, he might have come and lurked.
its just funny when i see friends of Hart (or others) talk about :
"hey have you ever heard of stileproject?"

makes me want to giggle uncontrollably

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Originally posted by AlcoholSoopaFiend:
me: "don't be silly" *hides knife in his pants to make sure*

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Originally posted by Paint CHiPs:
That was a knife?!

Thank God.

I'm so relieved.

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Registered: Nov 2000
Location: Sydney
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My boyfriend doesn't see the point of me posting here, he goes to tekken forums to simply read the crap. I also post in 3 other forums so he says i am a forum addict.

I wouldn't show this to my friends, they are not computer people.

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I have tried to get a few friends in here. One may be on his way in a few days (I hope!), but he's got a fairly hectic schedule. Don't know if he could handle being an addict like the rest of us.

I check the forums and chat sometimes from my office, and people who stop in giggle about it, but can't be persuaded to get into it themselves.

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Registered: Jul 2000
Location: zanzibar
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I have tried to get some of my friends here. I have sent one guy in my band links to threads that I knew he'd be into, political debates, drug debates, etc. Instead of taking the bait and signing up he wrote me back long emails detailing who was wrong and why. I was disappointed. Someday I am going to let my friend Ryan loose in here, I am just afraid to see what happens, he is insane. Nobody else really gets it though.

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Registered: Aug 2000
Location: Oregon
Posts: 1010

My family, my friends, they could care less.
*shrugs*
Shows you how much they care what is going on in my life. Exscuse me, *sob* I have something in my eye.


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Originally posted by DevilMoon:
I have tried to get some of my friends here. I have sent one guy in my band links to threads that I knew he'd be into, political debates, drug debates, etc. Instead of taking the bait and signing up he wrote me back long emails detailing who was wrong and why.
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Registered: Aug 2000
Location: Nanaimo, BC
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Most of my friends are (surprisingly to some) much more conservative than I am... actually, I'm kind of a freak amongst "normal" people in my group. I'm a misfit. My exes were like that too; they wouldn't understand. My best friend would totally dig the Asylum, but he's too busy reading, studying, or collecting massive amounts of porn on the 'net. hehe And then there's Freelance, who I actually met from Stileproject, and we both sorta migrated over.